leaves

on your heart

break

on mine

on your heart

anachronistic maple

on mine

words i cannot speak

out of time maple

in the Caribbean

words i cannot speak

on my chest

in the Caribbean

where leaves don’t fall

on my chest

but our skin does

don’t fall

don’t break

but our skin does

leaves

Anatopistic. Where it says anachronistic in the poem it should say anatopistic. Not out of time but out of place. The maple leaves on my father’s shirt from a trip to Niagra Falls are out of place on a beach in Anguilla where a maple tree will probably never grow. But I actually mean out of time. This poem is about what it means to be out of time when I want more time in my father’s arms. So yes. Anachronistic. Subject to time and out of it. Like a deciduous tree, seasonal, the leaves will eventually fall. Out of place in Anguilla where the palms and seagrapes and dried seaweed at the shoreline this close to the equator are not interested in the tempering of seasons. They have their own renewal timeline. The palms will wait a generation and then the low branches will dry out with dreams of becoming someone’s thatch. The seagrapes will strengthen themselves with salt. The ocean has already let go the seaweed dried up on the shore. It is just me, not letting go. Out of place in the place I want to be. Staying in place by running out of time. My mother took these photographs and made everyone squint into the sun to get us like this, in the best light, which it turns out is more light than we can bear. The slight glare is not from her camera but from my digitization. For now, I’ll keep it that way. Grainy dissolve texture over my baby hair. Temporary as a kiss.

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the ocean told me

the ocean told me

you would laugh for years

i heard it with my eyes closed

and i knew

you would laugh for years

after i left

and i knew

you would not be alone or bereft

after i left

you would be held

you would not be alone

you would float

you would be held

by more than me

you would float

and then you’d fly

by more than me

the ocean told me

and then you’d fly

i heard it with my eyes

At a certain point, my father started writing poems based on pictures. Many of theme were picture he took at the point in his life where he felt most comfortable behind the camera. He took so many digital pictures we called him Papa-razzi. In his poems he would claim to speak in the voice of the person in the photograph, a way of tuning in, displacing his own ego, a form of intimacy and honoring. I sensed that there was also projection there too. So I read for the aspects that exceeded the projection. Now I read those same poems , all written in the first person, looking for the poet, the photographer, the person finally able to speak while pretending to put someone else out front. At a certain point in this series of poems, based on pictures of me as a young child with my father, mostly photos taken by my mother, I felt my own perspective changing. First I wrote in “my own” voice, the bereaved adult daughter chronicling what I saw, longed for in the images. Then I could hear or imagine my infant self, reaching for memory, what did I know then that I need to remember now. Then towards the end of the process I began to hear my father’s voice. I began to engage the possibility of writing about what I still strongly experience as MY loss of HIM, from his perspective. Not a reversal into his loss of me, still my loss of him, but what he knows about it. What might he have known before all of this about what my life would be like after his. In his coaching practice my father encouraged people (including me one of his most willing experimental subjects) to imagine their impact as far into the future as they could envision, beyond their own lifetimes. What decisions did he make because he was imagining my life beyond his lifetime? What decisions must we make now imagining the lives of our loved ones beyond our lifetimes, imagining this planet beyond our species? Yes. Seems like a good time to listen to the ocean.

If you want to read some of my Dad’s poetry Without Apology: Poems in Honor of Black Women by Clyde E. Gumbs is available here.

If you want support listening to the ocean you can order my most recent book Undrowned: Black Feminist Lessons from Marine Mammals here.

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redding

from Alexis (upon birth)

you my world

of the matching shirt

of the redding skin

the chest

of the matching shirt

of the listening heart

the chest

i am the size of your lungs

of the listening heart

and the blinking wonder

i am the size of your lungs

breadth of your breathing

the blinking wonder

of what could exist

breadth of you       breathing

beyond your arms

but what could exist

past the redding skin

beyond your arms

you         my whole world

air

from Clyde (upon rebirth)

you my air

since lack of gravity

pressed the cavity into outerspace

you my lungs

since lack of pull

done     proved its proof

you my lungs

already were

you’ve proved your proof

mathematics of scale

you already were

calculus of compression

mathematics of scale

put you right over my heart

calculus of compression

give you all my best to keep

put you right over my heart

pressed to infinity

give you all my best to keep

you    my air

We breathe on behalf of so many. I am remembering this moment when I was about the size of my father’s lungs. What can these two beings, the young father and the wise infant teach me now about the breathing that I do now that he breathes no more? These poems are my attempt to bring that moment, photographed by my mother into language for moments like this when I need it. Redding is a verb and an adjective for the heat and urgency of emergence alive and radiant with becoming. Redding is the way our flesh becomes warning intimate limit forces us to learn lessons bigger than us, like what happens to air. How every body seems too small to fit a universe of love. And yet.

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make the loudest sound you can

and don’t apologize

when you celebrate yourself

you are celebrating me

and don’t apologize

to the people scared of love

you are celebrating me

you are celebrating all of us

to the people scared of love

this is the sound of getting over it

you are celebrating all of us

who don’t have flesh to use right now

this is the sound of getting over

the only way to hallelujah

for us beyond the body now

act like you know it

the only way to hallelujah

is make the loudest sound you can

act like you know it

when you celebrate yourself

My birthday (in June) is the day after my father’s and for many years we had joint birthday parties. This picture is from the first one. In this poem I can hear my father telling me rather directly to get my Lucille Clifton on and CELEBRATE. (Lucille Clifton was born in June too, and I miraculously got to celebrate her last birthday with her.) I don’t know if you are like me, but sometimes I feel shy about celebrating who I am, especially in times where so much is hard. There is so much grief. And the fact that grief is undeniable evidence of love, doesn’t mean that I feel like celebrating my losses. In the past I have been called “tone-deaf” (an ableist term) for finding gratitude and something to celebrate in the midst of terrible circumstances.

But knowing that my ancestors and all the no longer embodied can only come be part of this celebration on earth if I create one, a celebration, a portal for their love to stream through for me but also beyond me to you and all of us makes me realize that the work of celebration is crucial. The best offering I have to give my ancestors is my joy. After I find the love and lessons in my sadness (which often takes some time), they are finished with it. Sadness doesn’t keep. It grows toxic if I keep it around after it has already offered its gift. May I open my heart to fresh sadnesses with even more gifts another day. Joy on the other hand can’t wait. If I wait until everything is perfect to feel this joy…when will that be? And so I celebrate my father, I celebrate myself as his daughter. I celebrate all the love that I am experiencing in this time that is also shaped by my grief and by missing so many people whom I love. I’m celebrating you, and I’d love it even more if you would freely celebrate yourself today.

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squat behind the tiny swingset

split the skinny trees

pink and purple sweatsuit smiling girl

your mouth as if you’re saying something funny

behind you concrete wall and splitting trees

leaves on the ground chill in the sky

your mouth as if you’re saying something funny

my smile as if no one will ever die

you left me on the ground      gone          to chill in the sky

cause swingsets swing us only but so high

my smile as if no one will ever die

knows everything and nothing at one time

cause swingsets swing us only but so high

and chariots will come for numbered days

show everything and nothing at one time

the laughing man will wither         fade away

and chariots come for his numbered days

the smiling girl will cry and say not yet

the laughing man will do his best to stay

the curve of life is sure the swing is set

My father passed away the October my first single-authored book came out. This is us also in October on my first swingset, branded by Crayola. Another form of writing, near a wall that will not stop being a wall. What I see in my face is the innocence of not knowing how the pendulum swings and the joy of my father’s silliness. My father, who would make up songs and speak in funny voices. I am grateful for the rhythm of these poems for reaching back. So not single authored after all. Swing low sweet Dad. I hold you in the process and the poems. I love you with my laughter and my tears.

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Alexis:

land air teeth

soft growing

moon guide

laughter

soft growing

words

laughter

my future

words

i would memorize

my future

practice to shape

i would memorize

your face

practice to shape

the sound of you

your face

moon guide

the sound of you

land air teeth

Clyde:

twin suns

both eyes

your mouth

sound of ocean

both eyes

holding mine

sound of ocean

speaking prophecy

holding mine

gold future

speaking prophecy

truest wealth

gold future

poems of hair

truest wealth

what were you saying

poems in your hair

your mouth

what you were saying

twin suns

Every sunrise I meet my father again. I study him, right here in my own face. And then there are my mother’s photographs, my face close to my father’s face and both of us nearsighted. This poem imagines what might we have seen in each other’s faces during my second month of breathing. Dad still in the throes of his Saturn return, that time when all the lessons you have been able to avoid in your life come at you in a form that you cannot ignore. I am that form. And now, with all the lessons I am learning now, especially the visceral emotional lessons of grief, all I want is to look into my father’s face. But what I have is my face. I am in form the energy of he who now lives formless throughout the galaxy. And so I look myself in the eye and form the poem. Sun rise. Again.

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hold (never sold)

i remember your heart

and let me learn your arms

i remember the part

where we are eternal

and let me learn your arms

as cradle as treehouse

where we are eternal

and rooted and rocking and grow

as cradle as treehouse

as live structure reaching

and rooted and rocking and grow

into trees into butterflies

as live structure reaching

through drying out wings

into trees into butterflies

into songs into swings

through drying out wings

i remember the part

into songs into swings

i remember your heart

On the hospital smock that my father had to wear in the hospital on the day (after the all night) that I was born it says “never sold.” This is because the smock is not for sale, it is for hospital use. The smock itself has been present for many moments like this, where someone covers over their regular clothes to be ready to greet the newest among us, a just-born infant. But for me, accountable to my lineage which includes ancestral experience with the violent narrative of sale, of people for sale, my father wearing this smock that says “never sold” when I first get to see him in physical form is also (at least) poetic.

What I see in the photograph is comfort and familiarity. I know this heartbeat. And for me the possibility of infant memory, a form of recognition before the strictures of socialization is related to what it means to create a reality beyond the one in which we still live right now where private hospital laundry notwithstanding, the dominant narrative on this planet at this time is that everything is for sale. Especially our time, attention and physicality. This poem wants to say there is something before that, that we remember through knowing each other as love and possible love. Growth and possible growth. Change and more change beyond that. My relationship to my father continues to change, and it is tangled with the stories I am unlearning about lynching and what violence built here on sacred lands. And what I am learning is supported by my study of trees and butterflies and my reclaimed practice of play.

Though words distinguishing the proper use of property have been with me from the very beginning I am learning to read another way. I am remembering an older knowledge of who you are and who you can be. It is this form of never and before and beyond that will allow me to actually allow myself to feel safe enough with you to be held and beheld without fear of what this world has taught you to steal, siphon off or misrepresent about me. I remember before everything I know now. And I practice surrendering to that inarticulate memory. I remember the part where we are eternal and allow it to hold me here and now.

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this is what i breathe

into the top of your head

your crown

aquatic memory

into the top of your head

where dreams descend

aquatic memory

blowhole opportunity

where dreams descend

and live on earth

blowhole opportunity

to be your life

and live on earth

as if the earth was for you

this be your life

this

      be my love

as if the earth was for you

your crown

this be my love

this is what i breathe

Mama caught this photo of my dad breathing a blessing right into the top of my head. Soft spot of memory. My face in this picture resonates with how I feel today. PMS during #negrosolstice. Pout of a girl who knows that she is loved. The part mama combed between my afro-puffs, portal where dreams come to earth. Path through the tangled places. For the past 21 days I have been limiting my salt intake, clearing a path for more ancestral love to come through, helping myself release whatever deposits have collected from uncried tears and holding it together. If what is within is less dense than what surrounds me, I can float. (Some of y’all hear the aquatic version of your favorite Song of Solomon quote in there.) What do you need to release? I listened to “Let it Go pt.2” by the Beautiful Chorus this morning and allowed their ocean of repetition to unclench me. Those are the only words to the song “let it go.” For me, this is the solstice of the clear path. Not accumulation of powers or skills, but simple release of anything that would block the love shining through. Our superpower is being here, despite everything, as everything. Our superpower is presence, the presence of multitudes in our every breath. The prayers they breathe into our crowns perpetually. The superpower of a beloved scalp moisturized. The portal of every pore cleared. The prayer of your perfect pout, remembered whale spout, let the salt out.

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joy is contagious

i caught it from you

you carried it through

generations of laughter

i caught it from you

held you best i could

generations of laughter

baby waterfall

held you best i could

while you were small enough

baby waterfall

you break ways through mountains

while you were small enough

before

you broke your way through stone

i lifted you

before

you carried it through

i carried you

joy is contagious

Joy is contagious seems like a strange thing to say during a pandemic. But you can see it in the picture, the way joy spreads, the way our connection to each other’s joy teaches us that joy, like any energy, is not individually held but already shared. What if we built our lives accordingly. In this time when many of us are feeling the grief of not being able to share joy in person with the loved ones we have lost, or who we cannot be with because of the safety concerns brought on by a pandemic that never had to go this far and kill this many, it is important to me that we remember that joy is not limited by space or time. Joy moves through us. My father’s joy is here with me right now because it was never only his, just like it will never be singularly mine, it always belongs to all of us. This is a picture of our family trip to Dunn’s River Falls during my very first trip to Jamaica for my great grandmother Sarah’s funeral. It teaches me something that even though the journey was prompted by a solemn occasion, the love that was my great grandmother’s legacy, her mothering impact on her own children but also many grandchildren, daughter’s in law, community members was not closed off when she was buried. Like a waterfall, breaking even through stone, joy comes through. What a gift that all this joy will not be contained to my one life here on earth. What a miracle that I get to celebrate the infinity of that right now.

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forest lesson

and when you are in the woods

and it is dark

and you feel far away

from love

and it is dark

remember trees come

from love

like you do

remember trees

grow

like you do

from dirt

grow

and you will find

your dirty way

to heaven

and you will find

when you are in the woods

that heaven

is close

Every time we reach this dark time of the year it is a challenge for me to distinguish my mammal memory that it is time to hibernate from a feeling of depression, and even workaholic shame that all the things I wish I could get done before the end of the capitalist year drag through me like mud. We have so deeply pathologized rest that just honoring the clear signal of darkness to snuggle and dream becomes a struggle. I don’t know exactly why my mom decided to take a series of portraits of me and my dad in the dark near these trees during our first joint birthday party, I’ll ask. I certainly look like I don’t know what is going on. But looking back at this picture I imagine that whatever my Dad is saying to me to me in this moment is a message for right now, when I am in the mode of darkness, not a clear path but a mysterious part of the journey that ultimately has the most gifts, (pagan appropriation and capitalist harnessing of generosity aside). If I can really be with the dark parts of myself, the underground, the shadowed aspects of my life and my journey I will learn so much more, love myself deeper, rest enough to grow in invisible ways. So many of us feel far away from love and with no quick hope of traveling nearer during this season. In our creative projects we may be in the woods, unclear about where we are even going. That part of my journey that capitalism does not affirm and tries to pretend doesn’t even exist…a big clue that it must be important. The sacred unseen. Dirty, divine and evergreen.

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sand

it could be sun

in your face

it could be story

it could be sun

to burn you

it could be story

it could be source

to burn you

blacker

it could be source

come to reclaim you

blacker

it could be me

come to reclaim you

it could be me

it could be me

in your face

it could be me

sand

How do we actually face change? What faces do we make to brace for the brightness of sun, the razor sharp wind of sand. What do we look like when we feel the world moving around us. In this picture, a still image of my father and I reacting to our personal experience of climate change, heat, erosion on the scale of a moment, my Nana seems to be interested in and amused by our tensed and twisted faces. Could we be interested in, sometimes even delighted by changes as serious as the changes we are going through collectively right now? And what do the environmental changes, the changes we can feel on the surface of our skin teach us about the deeper mysteries of change, how life moves through us and beyond us. Or how we move through and beyond these bodies. Or how everything that made us reminds us that it will reclaim us. Or how we hold in this form for a moment, destined to disintegrate into our component elemental origin futures. What I see in my own face in this picture is the discomfort of feeling a boundary between myself and the rest of creation when I remember a moment not too long before this picture when I didn’t experience a boundary at all. When I look at this picture right now, missing my father and reaching to find him beyond embodied form, missing my Nana who I see over video chat and cannot touch for who knows how long, I feel so bound. And also I imagine that I am the sun, I am the sand that confronts us. Wanting to defy the limits of our skin. Burn through it. And my words and my actions throughout the day are mostly as awkward as this face , calling forth a tear membrane memory. Salt on my face. Such a natural response to all this sun and sand in my eyes.

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is the picture scratched

or is that sunscreen on your forehead

squinting at the camera

prescription glasses safe on shore

is that sunscreen on your forehead

while you hold your floating daughters

i am looking at my sister

she is looking at her feet

while you hold your floating daughters

the sea remembers you into it

she is looking at her feet

sun hat sensitive skin

the sea remembers you into it

just another shade of blue

sensitive skin for sensing sun

and somehow keeping it

just another shade of blue

squinting right at mama’s camera

i have to keep the light the sound

the picture scratches me

What can we keep? What is the work of keeping? I am up early this morning with archive questions. I am so grateful to have this archive of pictures to engage. But the work of keeping, holding close, my memories, my father, my mother’s portrait practice feels like it lives not in these image but somewhere between my hands and my heart. The work of keeping is mostly in my desire, my reach, not for the image but for the closeness, for the energy, for what that moment, but more importantly the loved ones indexed in it are still teaching me. And the edges of the picture and the finitude of our embodiment, the fact that sun could burn us, that salt wears us away, that this is all that there is left to touch and neither my touching hands nor this well kept photo album will live forever…all of that is painful. But that feeling of longing and reaching, of loving and becoming, I wonder if even this whole universe is but an index for that uncontainable energy. Ever referenced, never fully held. I miss my Dad. There is some good news I would love to celebrate with him. There is some hard news I know he would empathize with. Today. Every day. Welcome loved ones, to another day of holding close, of longing and reaching. Of disintegrating into all this desire to have and hold and touch and preserve the unpreservable. Of the love that’s there behind all of it. Oceans of it. Skies full.

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praise song for what holds you up

(for when it can’t be my two arms)

praise song for what holds you up

because you deserve to float

and salt from every ocean

loves your face

because you deserve to float

and stars from every galaxy

love your face

your place in the universe

stars from every galaxy

may they shine upon you

your place in the universe

is grace

may every sun shine upon you

right where you are

in grace

held by my love

right where you are

salt from every ocean

holds you up

sing now

and know

I received this poem as an ancestral message from my father. I wonder at this early moment he thought about the limits of his life, his strength, his ability to hold and protect. Right now, I am clear that there were many times in his life, and especially as he faced death, when he thought about what structures would support his children after he was not longer embodied on earth. Spoiler alert, he did not create a financial structure that left us all independently wealthy, though I think he tried. And I know he would have very much wanted to do that. And yet. I come back to our collectively favorite Nikki Giovanni proclamation: “Black love is Black wealth.” And now I can hear through the love of my father (who by they way bought us Nikki Giovanni’s poetry for children) the deeper meaning in the words “you deserve to float.” Not as capitalist entitlement, but as a return to the ocean, the sun and the galaxies beyond. You deserve to float. To be held by the universe. To receive love from every direction, in every form. This is a subversive legacy. Especially coming from a family of hustlers. I come by my workaholism naturally. But I deserve to float. It is easy for me to know the truth of that when I look at the young people in my life. Of course they deserve support. Of course they deserve to breathe easy and to know that life-supporting love is their divine gift to receive, not a scarce exception they have to learn. But I struggle to give that grace to myself. In this poem I receive instead of resisting my father’s wish that I have all good things and grace and ease in life. That I know, regardless of what capitalist narratives or my actual bank statement is saying, that I deserve to experience ease and to celebrate what this miracle of a planet is offering me constantly. I deserve to be at home on Earth which as Toshi Reagon often reminds us somehow has exactly the air we need to breathe the water we need to drink, the light we need to grow if we would just recognize it. And you too. You deserve to float. You were in fact made for it. You beautiful being full of air, on a planet made of salt. You being less dense than salt water or soil. With open pores all over the surface of your life. You were meant to receive all the love. Now sing.

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the sun will be bright in your face

and we will be beside you

behind you

we will see you through shadow

and we will be beside you

in our sunglasses and smiles

we will see you through the shadow

while you wonder

in our sunglasses and smiles

we hold you

while you wonder if

we are angels or afterlives

we hold you

and tilt our heads in close

angling after life

we flank your fat

and tilt our heads in close

behind you

we flank your fat the sun

bright in your face

Today I am embracing the brightness of ancestral presence and guidance, especially when life changes at a rate where I really don’t know what I’m looking at. This picture reminds me to remember that what supports and protects me is not actually the clarity of my vision. It is the support of my loved ones. These two archangel ancestors especially, that supports me to move into a future so bright I can’t describe it. As a severely nearsighted person, like my Dad and also like Audre Lorde, I want to be present to possibility beyond an ableist narrative of vision as progress. Of progress at all. I am ready to unlearn my life as an earned achievement and to accept it as a gift. I want to honor the people, the elements the energy that continually gives me this gift I am calling life. I want to affirm that my joy, my future, my success is not limited by what I can see from here. It is not predicated on my excellence as a seeing being. It is often beautifully blurred which is part of the gift of remembering I am not separate from life. I am not dominating life by naming and distinguishing this and that. I am part of life, and on a good day I don’t know where I end. And every day I am held and grateful.

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or “did you ever pet a care bear?”

i fit in the chair with you

you read a book

i won’t remember

about stare and care

you read a book

about core strength

about stare and care

the light we beam

about core strength

not of muscle but

the light we beam

when we dare to say

our hearts are not muscles

what really we mean

when we dare to say

i love you

what we really mean

now i remember

i love you

sit here with you

in the air

It has taken me until right now to realize what the Care Bears were teaching me this whole time. My heart is not a muscle. Of course the blood pumping valve, central metronome of my breathing is a muscle. But the heart, like how we mean heart, transfer center of love is not a muscle. It’s an opening. And openness is a form of strength. In fact, that is my daily prayer. To be strong enough to open my heart to you. Again. To beam rainbows of love upon you like the care bears do. Today I can say what I must have known all along, the power of the care bears, beaming love out of their chests, is not an act of force. It is an act of vulnerability. How open do I have to be that love can flow through with the power to heal, with the power to transform someone who really thinks they are my enemy into an ally? Who among us has so much faith that in the face of attack they open their chest? Seriously. Who does that? Which may be why until today I was afraid to say what I know. What all of us who have survived the death of loved one must know. My heart was never a muscle. It was always a hole. A passageway, variously constricted or open. Where love flows through, or at least leaks out. All around it are muscles, practices, stents. And it is not what I paint on my chest that matters. But what comes through. Lionheart, you got here right on time to teach me what all this strength is for. Not to close and fortify. Not to clothe in armor. But to surrender this great portal of my heart. Each day to let even more love come through. In the photo we are staring at the care bears. But from here I keep staring at you.

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the sun is a smiley face

i am a rainbow

you are a dressed

like a new moon night sky

i am a rainbow

you are the universe

like a new moon night sky

sitting on the floor

you are the universe

next to the record player

sitting on the floor

i lean back on you

next to the record player

the curtains block out

the actual sky

and what it is doing

i lean back on you

smile to gather the galaxy

dressed like the dark

night sky

This is part of what I am learning through loss. That when a loved one dies, what was an earthly relationship becomes a cosmic relationship. And more importantly, I can finally see that all relationships are already cosmic. My stardust daughterhood has always been here. Binary star systems orbit each other, offer light to each other and then something happens. Two distinguishable stars become a different cosmic event as the gas burns out, as the core elements fuse. Something bright happens. Is it death or birth. What my family calls the phenomenon “daddy’s girl” is a form of orbit. All of our relationships are. We get close enough to receive light, to offer light. We keep a pact with the universe to help each other return to the source that we came from. This is our love. What we learn to call loss even though we know the first law of thermodynamics. How it burns to become bright on behalf of those who have left us here to hold their light while we can. And to share it.

*Love and gratitude to Mama for this photograph, to Daddy for this moment and to Daniel Alexander Jones for sparking my interest in binary star systems and also modeling so gracefully the transfer and redistribution of light.

P.S. My every day writing practice shapes my days into vessels for generations of love. If you want support with your own daily creative practice, I’d love to be part of your journey. This is the Stardust and Salt Daily Creative Practice Intensive.

cold of water

bright of teeth

sun of shoulders

swim the question

bright of teeth

afraid of nothing

swim the question

what holds you up

afraid of nothing

and everything

what holds you up

what holds you

everything

is it love

what holds you

is it time

is it love

sun of shoulders

is it time

cold as the sea

It is taking me a long time to learn this. How supportive the ocean actually is to my life. What support actually feels like. In capitalism we are not supposed to know what actually supports us. And so we poison the water and the air. Ignore the currents and chase currency. We make time into units of productivity. But we long for connection. Oneness. Those moments when we forget to end or begin. Our glimpses of eternity. The moment of this picture was not my first experience of the ocean, but it was an early one. The thing about getting into the water is that at first you feel the boundaries of your skin differently than you could in air. But at some point the temperature balances, especially in the calm water of Rendezvous Bay, Anguilla which some people like to call “God’s bathtub.” Do you have those moments, were all of a sudden you feel the boundaries of yourself? The limit of your skin? Sometimes do you feel separate and afraid? Wondering if you are even worthy of support? I do. In those moments, I am teaching myself to remember the moment of this image my mother made. I know what it feels like to be supported by other people, my father the strong swimmer. Supporting me even now. I know what it feels like to be supported by this environment, the ocean which gave us life, the air that allows itself to move through me. By my mother holding an archive of every age of me. By each of you the moment you forget to pretend these poems are not yours. What holds us. It is love. All the time.

P.S. My every day writing practice shapes my days into vessels for generations of love. If you want support with your own daily creative practice, I’d love to be part of your journey. This is the Stardust and Salt Daily Creative Practice Intensive.

reaching

at first i didn’t see them behind us

poseidon and the prodigal

i only knew my hand reaching

my wings trusting you

poseidon and the prodigal

of myth and parable

my wings trust you

tall sunscreened and brown

of myth and parable

called father        float       foundation

tall sunscreened and brown

and in my eyes immortal

in my eyes immortal sun

salt and intuition

called father

                  float

                          foundation

you were land in shifting water

sun salt and intuition

i only knew my own hand     reaching

you were land in shifting water

and at first i didn’t see

This morning all I see in this picture is my reaching hand. The Osho Zen Tarot card I pulled this morning is the holy fool. Wearing a VERY similar outfit to me in this picture and also reaching. The mythological and biblical figures I didn’t notice at first the photo are my grandfather and my cousin already in the water. I am thinking about how I and we learn about the concept of father which is mythological and biblical and larger than life and quite a reach if we’re honest about all we project onto it. Even now, as I reach for my father through these photographs I have the opportunity to look at what I am really reaching for. Stability? A place to stand? Protection from drowning? A comforting story? Forgiveness? God? The wonderful thing about being a fool is this rainbowed open heart. These sleeves of air. The coming fall. This unavoidable failure. And if this is what it means to love you, I welcome it all.

P.S. My every day writing practice shapes my days into vessels for generations of love. If you want support with your own daily creative practice, I’d love to be part of your journey. This is the Stardust and Salt Daily Creative Practice Intensive.

(Thanksgiving ’87)

as if in prayer

hands clasped

eyes wide open

mouth closed

hands clasped

sisters held in blue

mouth closed

as if nothing need be said

sister held in blue

warm and close to winter

as if nothing need be said

listen

warm and close to winter

moustache glasses marking time

listen

we don’t know how much we weigh

moustache glasses marking time

eyes wide open

we do not know how much we weigh

hold us

as if of light

as if of air

as if in prayer

For at least my whole adult life navigating Thanksgiving with family has been a series of difficult decisions. As a Black feminist of indigenous ancestry, Thanksgiving is a day of mourning for how it came to be that we live right now in a society that answers the possibility of love with violence again and again. Thanksgiving has meant conversations to have and not have. Rare opportunities where loved ones have off of work and time travel to the context of favorite foods tinged with disbelief, dressed in a lie we don’t believe in but still use and live inside of in the supposed absence of a better story.

If there is not a better story, let there be a poem that breaks through the story of what is to touch what could be. This year navigating Thanksgiving does not feel complicated at all. Thanksgiving is literally the commemoration of a time when in the name of their so-called freedom a group of people ignored the consequences of the illness they carried with genocidal results. Which means this year, multitudes have the opportunity to relive not simply the mythology of the (historically inaccurate) “first thanksgiving” but also the consequences. Mass death. This year, although like many I miss my family more than I have any other year of my life, there is nothing awkward or confusing about this decision. It is a completely clear no. This year the time travel will not be visiting a childhood neighborhood or eating familiar foods inconsistent with my current dietary practices. My time travel will be through my mother’s photographs as usual. That’s her handwriting on the one photo in the album from Thanksgiving 1987. Am I looking out of the frame into this barely imaginable future? Is that calm exasperation on my father’s face the same expression he would make when I called him from college outraged about US bombings and he would remind me nothing in the history of the US nation state should have me expect anything different.

Really I would rather live through this with you than be right. I continue to love you enough to feel the pain of wanting all of this to be different. I wonder if you know how much you weigh. How your impact moves through air. How much you mean to life around you and beyond you. I want you to know how much it means, where and how you move and breathe. I want you to know how much I love you. This is my prayer.

P.S. My every day writing practice shapes my days into vessels for generations of love. If you want support with your own daily creative practice, I’d love to be part of your journey. This is the Stardust and Salt Daily Creative Practice Intensive.

stars and moons in black

you lunge in

i hold my first computer

crop two thirds of my name

you lunge in

like a sprinter

two thirds of my name

given by you

like a sprinter

more speed than balance

given by you

i live propelled

more speed than balance

barely touching the ground

i live propelled

by captured moments

barely touching

          the ground

i hold

          my first

computer

          my captured

moments

stars

       and

moons

          in

black

A few weeks ago with the help of my first computerized telescope (a gift from Sangodare) and the advice of my youngest brother Seneca about the rare proximity of Mars, I saw one of the moons of Mars. The Yoruba scriptures teach about how generations of stars release all known elements into the universe, emitting the dust that becomes planets. What I mean to say is I am exactly where I need to be. Amongst the moons and stars as usual. And holding onto this computer like it can hold this cosmic relationship, this black matter I am dressed in, the vast complexity of intergenerational relationship: a poem about my father. It still feels like this. A rushing towards, a leaning down inspiring a solar smile from the girl with the computer in her hands.

P.S. My every day writing practice shapes my days into vessels for generations of love. If you want support with your own daily creative practice, I’d love to be part of your journey. This is the Stardust and Salt Daily Creative Practice Intensive.